More Great Blogs

Just added two new friends' blogs to my blog list.  

My friends Dan and Jenna Hoffman Scott (friends from Cedarville, and later friends of the family in New Jersey) are in the process of adopting a child from Ethiopia and are blogging about it (The Scotts' Adoption Journey).

My friend Amy (also from Cedarville and aka velvet, author of calamity jane) has a second blog (clucked) with her musings on life and God, a bit more philosophical than calamity jane, which is more about her family life (and creative endeavors: she's a very talented cook and decorator). Both are excellent reads; entertaining and enlightening; reading her blog inspired me to start mine.

Ironically enough, all these folks are like-minded to me, yet we didn't become very close (in fact, I knew Dan by name and Jenna by face only until I moved to NJ and saw them at various friend and family outings) at the good ole 'Ville.  Shocking to learn that not everyone who wasn't in my immediate circle did not equal psychotic legalist.  :) 

More Thoughts on Singleness

Since many of you have emailed me privately, I think I will blog more on the quest of being a purposeful Christian who happens to be single.

On an aside, my friend Josh recently (or I found it recently, rather) wrote an excellent post on his blog re: singleness and actually found some articles and books I could maybe have found had I searched a little more. You can read it here. http://joshberrus.wordpress.com/2008/04/22/some-thoughts-on-singleness

I've also added Josh's blog to my blog list.

About My Blog

Just wanted to let you know that I've done some editing on my settings, and now you can do the following: subscribe to my blog (you know you wanna!) and or comments posted to my blog, click on the links I'm talking about (in future posts only; though at some point, I'll go back and link up the old ones, too) and comment whether you are a blogger or not, so no more excuses about emailing me privately to leave a comment (unless it's a private one, of course).

Singleness = Sinfulness?

So lately I am interested in finding a mate. I go through this every once in awhile, and I've learned not to express it to too many people (though I have no qualms about posting it here!) because they seem to think being content in my singlehood and wanting to possibly remarry are, of course, mutually exclusive. On the surface it may seem so. However, I really am a mysterious and complicated specimen of a woman. :)

What surprised me the most, I think, was the lack of Christian singles articles/websites that exist that embrace the life of the Christian single. Do a google search on "Christian single" and you will find lots of Christian dating sites, or, here are the SCARY ones, those that CONDEMN singleness and advocate marriage, in my opinion, for EVERYONE, like one by a married man (shocking, I know, and I thought that I saw earlier it's by him and his wife, but I can't find where I saw that now) right here on blogger, http://www.thegiftofsingleness.blogspot.com

Another woman has actually written a book about how Christians need to be more proactive in finding a mate (here's a link) http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/product?item_no=47413&p=1006327

That pretty much gave me a coronary.

THEN there is a website I thought looked promising, as its description on google said "Inspiration, encouragement and support for Christian singles who may or may not feel called to singleness, but who desire to live purposeful lives for Jesus Christ." So I clicked open the site, and the article that came up talked about celibacy. And this man defines being celibate as having never engaged, and planning to never engage, in sexual behavior. EVER.

Obviously, having been married and having an 8-year-old mini-me walking around, I know no one's going to be so naive to think my V-card hasn't been swept, if not on my wedding night, then at the very least the time Max was conceived. So apparently, in order to bear spiritual fruit, I had better get married again real quick, because I am a single non-virgin, and therefore do not qualify to be one of the persons who serves the Lord the way Paul talks about in I Corinthians 7. The article in question can be found here http://www.singleness.org/celibate/shtml.

I'd like to think the rest of www.singleness.org is okay, and the guy who wrote this article is just a complete nut job, but I am done searching for now. Oh, and I'm seriously rethinking finding a mate, if only to spite the smug marrieds. :)